June 9, 2016 1:09 am
Over the course of a couple of decades, many parents have learned to work with their child’s diagnosis through elementary school, all the way up to high school – if that route is even possible and beneficial for the individual. The struggles of the “bad” days and the joyous events of the many wonderful days can leave a parent living solely in the moment while raising a child on the autism spectrum.
If an individual has many supports and opportunities within the school system, most of the time those fail to continue through when he/she begins the most important journey of all; young adulthood.
For the most part, we all want to live some form of independence – even if it seems like a scary concept. Many individuals on the autism spectrum face the reality that independence isn’t something that will come naturally, unlike many of their peers they have grown up with. A delayed life of independence does not mean it isn’t attainable, however.
The transition to life after high school is with out a doubt a difficult time for many. We, as a society, tend to view that young adult transition period as a vital shift towards being an independent person. Some refer to is as a “launch” phase, while other’s realize that it is more of a bumpy mountain bike ride.
The pressure of this transition period can be overwhelming for anyone. Throw in a developmental disorder and the stress is for sure going to start to build up.
Many parent’s who hit this transitional period can often times feel overwhelmed, rushed, and alone. We get that. It’s an unfortunate feeling, but it doesn’t have to feel that way.
The main reason we exist as a program, is to recognize that not all young adults “launch” the same as each other, diagnosis or not. There is no guidebook or app that can be purchased one day, and a 6 digit salary is obtained the next. If only that were possible!
To help alleviate the stress of both the young adult and family, we often times suggest come to term that it is going to be a long, but rewarding, road. It isn’t going to happen over night, and constantly thinking – or hoping – it will won’t be good for you. Recognize that we all learn differently, and that it will eventually come.
Maybe it’s time that we recognize that it isn’t a failure to launch, but more of a check-your-engines-multiple-times type launch.
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